It can feel like anal sex for women is the final frontier. But still, for some, anal is a big deal. But the fact remains that not only have many women tried it, but many women like anal sex. As Sinclair explains, not only is this narrative false, but it's also problematic in more than one way.
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Anal intercourse is a highly efficient mode of HIV transmission. Nevertheless, there is evidence to suggest that anal intercourse is also widely practiced by women in the US 1 — 4. Given that anal intercourse is associated with higher rates of heterosexual HIV transmission than vaginal intercourse 10 — 13 , women who engage in unprotected anal intercourse with sexual partners of unknown or seropositive status may be at greater risk for acquiring HIV than women who do not practice anal intercourse or who use protection while doing so. Additionally, Halperin 1 found that women who engaged in anal intercourse were less likely to use condoms during anal intercourse than during vaginal intercourse. Most studies of heterosexual HIV transmission fail to distinguish between vaginal and anal intercourse in their assessments of coital acts, thus continuing to overlook anal intercourse as a potential source of HIV transmission. This oversight may be due to cultural taboos surrounding anal intercourse, including its association with homosexuality and its perceived lack of hygiene 1. A number of researchers have already pointed to the need for increased attention to anal intercourse as an understudied source of HIV transmission from seropositive men to their seronegative female partners 1 , 3 , 6 ,
Despite increasing pop culture coverage, anal sex is still heavily stigmatized. While this might be true for some women, assuming it goes for all women is completely unfair. Woman A: It honestly does hurt, be prepared, and use lots of lube if you want an easier time. Woman B: At times, it can be uncomfortable, but I don't recall that it ever really hurt. I've had partners who are very attentive and listen to my needs, so I've never experienced pain. There are times, however, when a larger penis may cause cramping. Woman C: For me, it did. That first time was like, "Oh dear god, nothing is supposed to go in there. Like a lot of deep breathing and you have to let everything go. Then it kinda stops hurting when you finally relax, but for me, it can get bad again when he starts thrusting.
More and more ladies are putting a welcome mat by the back door: 36 percent of women and 42 percent of men have tried anal sex , according to a new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Now that Maya Rudolph has screamed about anal bleaching on Bridesmaids and thousands of free anal clips are available on PornHub, more people are interested in testing the waters, she says. Still, not everyone who tries it makes it a regular part of their sex lives. Only 8 percent of women have had anal in the last month, according to a study from Indiana University. The anus can be an uncomfortable place to be touched at first. To help her get used to it, start with light butt play before you try penetration, says McBride. For example, one night you can try just putting a finger or a vibrator on the outside of her anus. Another night, lube up a finger and gently insert it. Or experiment with butt plugs.