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At its most basic, men crave novelty more than women
OK, here we go: This month's column is dedicated to anal play. Still with me? Great, because an increasing number of couples—and at least one Girls character this season we're looking at you, Marnie —are exploring the sexual delights that both men and women can find around back. You might be among them! Or you might be wondering: Are guys really that fixated on butt stuff? According to our survey, yes: 67 percent of guys are open to anal play in some form.
Anal sex avoids intimacy – cue the commitment-phobes
Anal sex tops the "must try" list for many guys…but it's not exactly up there for most women. We asked a few seasoned sex experts why men are so fascinated by the idea of getting into our back doors. Here's what they revealed. Throughout history, anal has been known as a sexual forbidden fruit of sorts. This off-limits factor makes it especially appealing to men, says award-winning erotica author Darren Michaels. After all, they tend to want what they can't have, right? Now, anal sex is a standard when it comes to porn, so most guys have seen it in action, even when they weren't necessarily looking for it. Because anal has become so mainstream in porn, guys might feel like they're missing out if they're not doing it too, says sexuality counselor Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Good in Bed.
Looking to add some kink into the bedroom? My ex-girlfriend and I tried it one afternoon just for the hell of it. She'd actually lured me away from the college football game we were at with a promise that we could try anal if we left at halftime, which seemed like an okay deal to me. There wasn't really anything too special about it, to be honest, and she certainly wasn't enjoying it, though that was probably due to lack of proper preparation and lubrication. I had not. But if a girl seemed really into it and wanted me to try it, I would. We asked guys what really turns them on.